Mr. President, We Are More Than an Inspiration
I watched President Obama’s State of the Union address last
night, and I have to say I was disappointed. I was disappointed because, to me, it felt like the same old rhetoric. The President talked about a large number
of issues, while almost completely ignoring our nation’s largest minority group,
disabled people. He even forgot to mention us when talking about the many
different types of diversity that make up this great nation. The only time
disability was highlighted at all was when the President told the story of Corey, a wounded veteran. Don’t get me wrong, I was glad to hear our president
share Corey’s story because it was an important one, and I think those stories
need to be told and honored. However, I couldn’t help but feel that disabled people were relegated to the same role we are always given--inspiration.
In policies, politics, and life in general, disabled people
are so often trotted out as examples of working hard, overcoming obstacles,
beating the odds, and never letting anything keep you down. Disabled people’s
lives are so often used to say to the non-disabled population, “if they can do
it, so can you.” The everyday lives of disabled people are all too often turned
into caricatures, or used as feel good human interest stories to “inspire” and tug
at the heartstrings of the audience. I can’t count the number of times that
people have told me I am inspirational just for being out in public. I can’t
count the number of times that I have heard somebody say, “If Karin can do it,
so can you,” or have had somebody look at me with a sideways glance and say to
their children, “Be grateful for your life; it could be so much worse.”
Very seldom though,
do those same people ever ask me about my life. Rarely, do the people who hold
me up as an inspiration want to hear about the struggles I face as a disabled
American. People don’t want to hear about the lack of accessible housing, the
ridiculously high unemployment rate, the astronomical cost of personal care, or
the painful scars left by years of bullying and ableism. When it gets
down to the real issues, people rarely want to talk about disability. Last
night was no different, our President was happy to tell Corey’s story as an
example of American strength, but he virtually ignored the needs of the
disability community when outlining his policies.
When you’re disabled, people often treat you as if you exist
to inspire them, to give them that warm fuzzy feeling in their stomachs, or to
make them feel better about their lives. When you’re disabled, people so often
expect you to be all about overcoming and making the best of every situation, no matter how impossible it seems. When you want to talk about the real
issues you are often painted as bitter or angry, or even worse, silenced, and ignored.
If you want to see people like Corey and myself as
inspirational then you also need to take a step back and try to understand the
struggles that we face. It’s time to remember that disabled people are not
simply poster children for overcoming. It’s time to remember that Corey, myself, and
every other disabled person is not here for your inspiration or to give you that
warm fuzzy feeling in your stomach. We are people, and we want to be treated as
such. We want to be able to get jobs and not work for sub-minimum wages. We
want to be able to go to school and not have to worry about restraint and
seclusion. We want to be able to live our lives and take care of our needs
without having to live in poverty, just to survive. This is the part of
disability nobody talks about because it’s not pretty, and it doesn’t look good
on a poster, on the stage, on television, or as a sound bite in a speech.
I am a disabled American. I want to live the American dream
just like everyone else. I want to be able to go to work and support myself. I
want to be seen as a person with rights, and opinions, and value, just as I am, not by overcoming my
disability, but by living with it.
Mr. President, it is easy to clap for people like Corey, or myself when we are up on a stage, but it is time to start considering us. It is
time to start legislating for us. It is time to start counting us. We are so much more than an inspiration, we are human beings. Please don’t forget that.